Understanding Object Constancy

Living with a mental disorder such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I’ve found few people truly know what BPD is about, in terms of symptoms and diagnosis. I am also seeing however, it is the flavor of the month diagnosis, rapidly growing in mental health circles of recent. Growing up in the 1970s, the diagnosis […]


If you have been following my Blogs at www.searchingforgrey.com, I have been doing a series on the different types of Borderline Personality Disorder. As I wrote in my first Blog in this series, “The Quiet Borderline”, I was intrigued to find out, through research, that not all of us with BPD are alike. There are […]

Maturing with Borderline Personality Disorder

One of the luxuries of being young and having Borderline Personality Disorder is, during the earlier stages of the disorder you are so wrapped up in yourself and your symptoms that you are not capable of reflecting on the effect you have on those around you. Having a brain disordered by BPD is so consuming […]

Borderline Personality Defined

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), what is it? Isn’t it similar to the Bipolar Disorder we’ve all heard about? NO! BPD is not another form of Bipolar. It is unlike all other forms of mental illness. It is the badass king of mental health disorders which is why I always state that anyone who battles this […]

BPD and Discrimination in the Workplace

Can we just agree to call the mental health stigma what it really is, discrimination. When you encounter the negative stereotypes that cause shame to those with mental illness and prevent them from seeking help, or a place in the workforce, it is not just stigma; it is a blatant, prejudice toward a certain population…the […]

Breaking The Stigma of Mental Illness

Photo credit: Nickolas J Dixson For many years, I hid out with my dark secret. Of course, my family was aware but some of my family members weren’t aware as to the extent of my mental illness. I would cry tears calling out to God, why He made me like this? Why I couldn’t understand […]

Let’s Talk Triggers

For those who are not used to the “language” of living with Borderline or a loved one who has Borderline Personality Disorder you may say, “What is a trigger”. The fact is that most people that struggle with the symptoms of BPD suffer from triggers. A “trigger” is an event or situation that intensifies the […]