Go Big or Go Home

It was spring on the East End of Long Island. Joe, Niki and I lived just on the edge of the Hampton's in a small condo on Moriches Bay. Niki was 2 years old, so I regret that she does not have much memory of it. It truly was a magical place. Contrary to popular

What is Normal?

Having suffered from mental health disorders my whole life, I’ve always strived to be 'normal'. Yet, what is normal? If you are like me, you may also be beginning to question this concept with all the recent events making headlines these days. For most of my life, I compared myself to others judging their status

Mental Health Fear Challenge

I would like to invite everyone to participate in this Mental Health Fear Challenge. I am creating this challenge as a way to support and help combat those who through fear and desperation feel they have no hope. For those of us with BPD, suicide rates are many times that of other illnesses, however lately

Can BPD’s Show Empathic Traits?

Can BPD’s Show Empathic Traits?I can say that there is hardly anything to like about having a disorder like Borderline. If I had to wish this disorder on my worst enemy, I would never. There are, however, certain aspects of the condition that I feel make us special, or set us apart from “normal people”.

Our Reality

At the very core of a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, in our reality there is a longing, a yearning, a need to be understood. People tell us we are manipulative, selfish, needy, and clingy and we can never get enough of what we are seeking. Our motive is not manipulation. ‘Manipulation’ is a way

How to Handle Toxic Relationships

I have brought this topic of how to handle toxic relationships up in blogs before with regard to having toxic relationships with those in your life. I have also brought up the fact that we, ourselves, may be the toxic one in the relationship. There are times however, such as with a family member, where

What Childhood Trauma Can Steal From You

During childhood, the time from birth through adolescence, a child's body is in a constant state of growth. Many times disruptions can happen to that biological development, especially when the child grows up in an environment where they are living in a constant state of stress. The growth of the child's immune system and learned

Pushing Forward

There are times when living with mental illness is easier than others are. Your meds are working well, you seem to be thinking clearly and sailing along in the belief that you too can live and exist like a normal person. Then the crap hits the fan. It could be anything from a trigger from

Silent Voices

It has the capacity to render its victims a life in a self-inflicted jail cell with no hope of escape. It will cause its victims to lie, cover up and make excuses for its very existence. Once encountered, its victims are forever changed; some of them will even die by its hand. It generally passes

Fixers

When you have grown up and survived a childhood of abuse and torment, it is my observation that you acquire a skill set trying to play the role of “fixer” throughout your life. Fixers are usually the eldest or first-born in the family. As the first born you have seen the most, suffered the most,