At the very core of a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, in our reality there is a longing, a yearning, a need to be understood. People tell us we are manipulative, selfish, needy, and clingy and we can never get enough of what we are seeking. Our motive is not manipulation. ‘Manipulation’ is a way
How to Handle Toxic Relationships
I have brought this topic of how to handle toxic relationships up in blogs before with regard to having toxic relationships with those in your life. I have also brought up the fact that we, ourselves, may be the toxic one in the relationship. There are times however, such as with a family member, where
What Childhood Trauma Can Steal From You
During childhood, the time from birth through adolescence, a child's body is in a constant state of growth. Many times disruptions can happen to that biological development, especially when the child grows up in an environment where they are living in a constant state of stress. The growth of the child's immune system and learned
Pushing Forward
There are times when living with mental illness is easier than others are. Your meds are working well, you seem to be thinking clearly and sailing along in the belief that you too can live and exist like a normal person. Then the crap hits the fan. It could be anything from a trigger from
Silent Voices
It has the capacity to render its victims a life in a self-inflicted jail cell with no hope of escape. It will cause its victims to lie, cover up and make excuses for its very existence. Once encountered, its victims are forever changed; some of them will even die by its hand. It generally passes
Fixers
When you have grown up and survived a childhood of abuse and torment, it is my observation that you acquire a skill set trying to play the role of “fixer” throughout your life. Fixers are usually the eldest or first-born in the family. As the first born you have seen the most, suffered the most,
Keeping it Real
When going through difficult life challenges AND having mental illness, things can get interesting and sometimes even pretty funny in an upside down kind of way. I thought for the heck of it that I would share some of my journey these past three weeks prior to my upcoming breast surgery with you. I am
Coping through Life’s Struggles with Mental Illness
It feels at times that there is no one that can handle hearing or trying to understand the truth and the rawness of mental illness. I can be an advocate, but I am also a victim of something I wouldn't wish on another living soul. I don't know why I was chosen to live a
Sticks and Stones
We’ve all heard the childhood saying, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”, but this isn’t really true. In fact, words can be the most serious means to cause harm to a person. It’s a wonder that this childhood rhyme ever became popular. Growing up in a household filled
Depression the Silent Epidemic
Unlike other forms of mental illness, depression sneaks up on you. It doesn't get in your face and scream at you like other forms of mental illness. One day you feel a little sluggish but you’re still able to function normally. Another day, you may find you have a headache that eventually transforms in a